I’ll try to tone it down on the pk/pengo posts.
I’m sorry if this is annoying but it really feels important to me. Honestly I’m very worried about Pengo and I’m wishing and praying that he is okay and will be okay. I hope he knows there are a lot of people who support him and admire his bravery for coming out with all this. Its done a lot for many others.
Pengo, wherever ya are, I hope you’re doin alright.
i havent talked about it publicly, but ive told some friends, and i dont mind telling you!
ah, wait, you know what, this is a perfect opportunity to, so im going to make this my public coming out about this.
im actually the person who talked about their ex in pengo’s original callout post. if you ctrl+f for “cheating” both instances are my input. the first was when i confided in my friend ness a long time ago on twitter, when the wounds were still fresh, and the 2nd was to pengo (through fanmail, through ness) when he was drafting the callout post.
i was happily dating exty (i will call him this for the sake of not confusing anyone) for almost three years, until he joined the pmd-e group, got chummy with pk, suddenly stopped talking to me, apparently cheated on me, dropped the fact he was moving to las vegas with them on me out of nowhere when i finally confronted him one day, continued to not talk to me/not respond to me, unfollowed me everywhere, then only properly broke up with me a month or more later via tumblr ask (quite an unreliable method for something so significant).
the whole ordeal left me paranoid as hell (considering my fears were Confirmed), incredibly depressed, physically ill, and did absolutely no good for my abandonment…issues(?). i had to increase the antidepressants i was on at the time so i could stop wishing i would die/disappear. i literally just cried every day for who knows how long. i was incredibly attached to and fond of him, and all of this literally dropped out of nowhere. i was just suddenly and cruelly cut off from the most important person in my life at the time; abruptly snapped off like an errant branch on a bush with no compassion or consideration.
i don’t know how i possibly could have gotten through that part of my life without all the unconditional care and support i got from my friend dana. god bless her to the end of time
anyway, exty did apologize for dragging things out, but didnt own up to anything else, and despite saying he wanted to still be friends with me after he was “more settled and comfortable with.. things” he eventually never interacted with me again, in spite of any effort on my part. eventually i finally unfollowed him because i couldn’t bear it anymore and i was only torturing myself.
its been a very long process to come to terms with what happened, and pengo’s callout post has helped clear up my remaining feelings on the matter so much… im going to tell you: he took a long time to carefully and meticulously draft that thing together. he regrets it because of all of the suffering it’s brought down on him, but im very grateful for the help it’s brought to me and others. i’d rather leave my experience to the dark, because nasty relationship business is better left there (something pk should have maybe considered before complaining about pengo to god knows how many people followed their blog, instead of, idk, on their private venting blog?). but what’s going on right now is absolutely ridiculous, and i really hope coming forward about this publicly will help pengo (and others) in some way. i was only on the fringes of pk’s group’s influence and i was hurt very very badly. perhaps it was more exty’s fault than theirs, but i certainly can’t deny that they had some influence in the matter.
probably the most important thing to note is: i dont care so much about what happened to me anymore. i dont care so much about what’s really going on with exty etc, i dont care so much what possibly did or didnt go on between them anymore. pengo coming forward with what happened to him helped me let go.
what i DO care about is the group’s reaction to pengo calling them out. i care about the damage pk has (unwittingly or otherwise) brought down on him. i care about pengo’s well-being. i care about the well-being of anyone who got sucked into that mess, or could get sucked into that mess in the future. i may have been just a few coincidences away from getting sucked into it myself. dana’s said she’s really glad i didn’t, and i am too. from the outside looking in, i’ve never liked what i see. (my therapist doesn’t either.)
and you know what? im honestly afraid to post this publicly. im terrified to bring this up. ive seen whats happened to others. and tbh i feel like this is not super relevant, and i hope people with more direct experiences will come forward. but i dont want to sit by while pengo takes the brunt of everything, and being neurodivergent myself (for the record, because APPARENTLY it’s relevant, i have bipolar type II (supposedly, instead of depression), anxiety disorder, and selective mutism), and having so many neurodivergent friends, im disgusted at the sly ableism i’ve seen. a person having mental illness doesn’t give you the right to automatically and completely disregard everything they say as lies, fantasy, and made-up stories.
pk is incredibly talented, and inspiring, i’ve certainly been inspired by their incredible painting skills and mastery of colour… but i cannot look at it indifferently. in the past it has made me ill to see (ive got some choice things blacklisted nowadays). if you choose to support their shifty behaviour, that’s your business, but i’d rather you take several metres back from myself, and especially from pengo. i implore you to take this situation seriously and try to recognize that pk may not be the perfect person they and their allies paint them to be.
Hi everyone. A few anons have asked for my thoughts on the situation between PurpleKecleon/Mel/PapayaKitty and PengoSolvent. If you don’t know what’s going on: PK is a very well-known artist. Pengo is a lesser-known artist and musician who used to work with and date PK. It started when PK made a post vilifying Pengo. Recently, Pengo called out PK over the post, claiming that PK was manipulative and possibly abusive, and things went downhill from there.
Context: I’ve been an enormous fan of PK for well over a decade. I’m talking back when dinosaurs roamed the earth and Oekaki ruled supreme. I’ve held them at the top of my ‘artists I’d like to emulate’ list for a very long time. Not just their art, their person and their values. So trust me, I’d like to believe in them.
I’d normally just link to someone else’s post, but 1. this situation rings close to my heart and 2. I haven’t been able to find any posts that address certain key issues. So I took the liberty to vomit out a few pages of my own input. Keep reading for discussion about power disparity and abusive behavior. (Warning: hyperlinks to rape/death threats, discussion of abuse, discussion of ableism.)
Please read this if you want a well written account about the PK/Pengo conflict.
I’m sure many of you have already heard of this. Maybe some of you are tired of this and I’m sorry to interrupt the flow of pokemon sketches but this is important.
I know we all have our favorite artists.Those ‘idols’ that we aspire to be. However it is not okay to use that power to hurt someone else.
I’ve read and I’ve read and I’ve read on both sides of this issue and I’m sorry but there is just nothing okay about how Purplekecleon is handling this.
I think this article goes over it pretty well and there are plenty of other very well written and well sourced posts that come to the same conclusion.
Thus I’ve made a decision.
Your support, has always been very much appreciated. While I may not say much, every like, every ask, everything has not gone unnoticed and I do sincerely thank you all for watching.
At this point though, I am going to ask all who support PK to please unfollow me. One may argue that it is not my place to really take a stance on it. Right now though, after reading through everything, I do not feel okay at all with PK and really want nothing to do with them.
I’m sorry if this offends and please always feel free to shoot me an ask if you have questions/opinions. I’ll do my best to be mindful and respectful and just ask you do the same.
Thank you everyone.
Been a while since I’ve put some new stuff in my shop. Bat Stickers and Autumn Delight Stickers are now available at my store. Owl stickers will be available early next week. I will also be holding a giveaway sometime next week, so stay tuned! The bat stickers will be available until Nov 8th, the autumn treats will be available until Dec 6th.
Koryos helped me a bunch with choosing bats- I never realized how diverse the shape of bat’s ears and noses are.
ps. I have not given up on my pokemon stickers, I have some things planned.
Hey everyone! My GF Worked really hard on these to get them out during October. If you love halloween then you’ll love these on anything from phones to computers and much more!
She’s looking to use the money to move out and support herself while paying off student loans.
Of course we understand that everyone has something they need to pay for! So if you cant buy now, no worries, but spreading the word is always a big help! Thank you all, you rock~
Also she has pokemon stickers if you are interested, you can check out her store!
Had a silly but fun little dream. Dealt with a villain who had a southern accent like Lolli’s. The villain wore an old western trenchcoat. I think I’m going to try that look with lolli.
Hope you like it and thanks again for the Lolli~
Reblog for the morning crowd!